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Practical guidance for men in marriage crisis. New episodes monthly.
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I really like your approach and listening to your podcast episodes have helped me personally be a better man (no matter what the outcome of my current marriage will be).
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Glad you're back. I've been listening to your material since my Wife asked for a divorce 6 months ago. I really like your approach and listening to your podcast episodes have helped me personally be a better man (no matter what the outcome of my current marriage will be). Look forward to listening to your new stuff Stephen. Thank you for the work you do. It has made an impact on me at an incredible time in my life.
whether we reconcile or not, it's still a win win situation for me... I'll be a better man either way!
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I just wanted to thank you for all the free information you have provided, you are getting me thru a "cordial in house separation" my wife wants a divorce and I dont... I have made most of the mistakes you've mentioned and now I'm in the "giving her space" stage and it's not easy! had it not been for yours and others valuable information, I woulda lost my mind and just gave up and left already... it's been a month and 2 weeks now, but I'm ok... whether we reconcile or not, it's still a win win situation for me... I'll be a better man either way! So thank you!!! you will continue to get me thru this as I continue to listen to your podcasts everyday!
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4 Ways I Coach Separated Men Differently Than I Did 10 Years Ago
After 10 years coaching separated men, here's where I stand on no contact, ultimatums, moving out, and marriage counseling — and the question beneath.
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5 Blind Spots That Are Costing You Your Marriage
Five blind spots most men don’t see until the marriage is in crisis — tone, domestic load, yelling, self-care, and how you view sex.
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The Ultimate Goal Of Every Husband
Most husbands feel love but struggle to apply it. This episode closes the gap — what love looks like as a verb, and why fear is the thing that stops…
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Why The Husband Makes Or Breaks The Marriage
Women file two out of three divorces — not because they stopped caring, but because they stopped believing change was possible. Here's what that…
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Destination vs Journey Goals
Most husbands know where they want their marriage to go. This episode covers the other type of goal — who you want to be while you get there.
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How To Forgive Alone & Why You Should
Forgiveness is often talked about but rarely defined. Here's what it actually looks like to forgive someone who hasn't asked for it — and why you…
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How To Heal Your Wife's Midlife Crisis
Your wife's midlife crisis is really an identity crisis — here's how to rebuild the identities she loves within the marriage and endure the season…
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How To Validate Your Wife
When your wife brings up a problem, jumping straight to solutions often makes her feel dismissed. Here’s how to validate first and actually feel…
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Is This One Word Poisoning Your Marriage?
Learn to spot when ‘should’ is poisoning your reconciliation — how to separate standards from boundaries and create alignment instead of a standoff.
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You've Been Lied To About Your Marriage Problems
If your marriage keeps having the same problems, it doesn't mean you're doomed. Here's what recurring conflicts actually tell you — and why…
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You Get Exactly The Marriage You Deserve
What if you’re getting exactly the marriage you deserve? A challenging question that uncovers the blind spots and avoidant habits that hold your…
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How Good Couples End Up Divorced
Good marriages don’t usually fail from one big betrayal. Here’s the quiet back-burner pattern that drives most separations, and how to spot it in…
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Three-Word Phrases Every Wife Needs To Hear
Eight specific three-word phrases you can use with your wife right now — what each one actually means and when to say it.
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5 Reasons You Might Decide To Be Done Waiting For Your Wife
Five reasons men eventually decide to stop waiting for their wife — and why hearing them might actually make you more confident to keep going.
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6 Reasons To Keep Waiting For Your Wife To Come Back
Six reasons to keep waiting for your wife — a pep talk for men who are sick of the uncertainty and need something solid to hold onto.
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How Much Longer Until She Comes Back?
Can’t give you a timeline, but here are the seven factors that affect how long separations last and which direction yours is heading.
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Marcus Farris Shares His Journey Through Separation, Infidelity & Divorce
A raw conversation with Marcus Farris — a man who went through separation, infidelity, and divorce, and came out the other side with his faith and…
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From Friendship To Attraction Once She's Started Coming Back
You’ve made it through the friend zone — now what? Here’s how to move from friendship back to attraction as your wife starts to come back.
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Stuck In Your Wife's Friend Zone? Here's What To Do
You get along fine but she has no attraction to you. Here’s what the ‘friend zone’ actually describes and what to do about it during separation.
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Thankful In No Man's Land: The Key To Waiting For Your Wife
Gratitude and separation feel like they don’t belong together — but thankfulness directly affects your confidence and your ability to wait well.
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Holidays During Separation: 7 Tips
Seven practical tips for navigating the holidays when you’re separated — including how to stay steady when she might be weighing her next move.
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How To Forgive Your Wife Through Broken Boundaries
If your wife keeps doing unacceptable things, does forgiving her just enable it? Here’s how forgiveness and boundaries actually work together.
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How To Have An Open Conversation During Separation
Three reader questions answered: how to have honest conversations during separation, how to approach things if you had an affair, and when to be…
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Doing The Hard, But Good Thing
Two reasons to do the hard, good thing in your marriage — especially when the outcome isn’t guaranteed and no one’s watching.
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3 Unconventional Ways to Rebuild Trust During Separation
Trust must come before love can grow. Here are three unconventional ways to rebuild it with your wife, even when she’s not cooperating.
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5 Reminders To Help Endure A Long-Lasting Separation
Five reminders for men stuck in a long-lasting separation — how to keep going when nothing seems to be moving and the end feels invisible.
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The Separation Roadmap
The four stages every separation passes through — what's going through her head at each one, the common mistakes, and what works.
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Get Your Wife Back With Boundaries
Enforcing a boundary is a last resort in separation — but it’s also the one move that puts you back in control. Here’s when and how to use it.
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Get Your Wife Back With Friendship
How to use genuine friendship as a path back to your marriage during separation, when it works best, and how to avoid the pressure that kills it.
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Get Your Wife Back With Fatherhood
For dads in separation: how stepping up as a father can rebuild trust and help your wife see you in a positive light when words alone won't work.
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Get Your Wife Back With Space
Your wife wants space — here’s how to respond in a way that sets you up for reconciliation, including when to back off and when to lean in.
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Get Your Wife Back With Attraction
Attraction is often the first thing to go when a marriage hits separation. Here's what it actually is, how to rebuild it, and signs you're gaining…
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Separation Strategy Part 4: Rebuild Trust One Step At A Time
Trust is the foundation the 3+1 Separation Strategy is built on — here's what it actually means and how to rebuild it with your wife step by step.
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Separation Strategy Part 3: Show That Man To Your Wife
With self-control and self-improvement in place, we begin looking at how you can start showing your wife the man she could have if she stays.
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Separation Strategy Part 2: Become The Man You Want To Be
Self-improvement is step two of the 3+1 Separation Strategy — how to channel self-control into meaningful changes as a man, husband, and father.
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Separation Strategy Part 1: Stop The Desperation, Find Your Focus
The first step of the 3+1 Separation Strategy: how to stop the desperation, regain your focus, and take back what you can control.
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