It's Not Too Late For Her To Come Back...
Learn how she goes from "I need space" to "Let's work on things"
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Estimated reading time: 20 minutes
What Are You Facing In Your Marriage?
"My Wife Wants Separation"
This is where most men facing marriage crisis should start. Fundamentals of surviving separation.
- The Let Her Go Mindset (most popular
) - 3+1 Separation Strategy teaches a proven approach for men seeking to rebuild the relationship during crisis.
- What separation means, and what you should and shouldn't do.
- Huge variety of "What if" resources, including how to deal with low or no communication.
"My Wife Had or Is Having An Affair"
Just suspect something, or have concrete proof; emotional, or physical; still in motion or trying to heal... All here.
- Emotional Affairs - What are they? Why do they happen? How do they affect your marriage?
- Physical Affairs - What if she is in a full-blown extramarital dating relationship?
- Common signs of both emotional and physical infidelity.
- Can you still save your marriage during or after her affair? How?
"My Wife Is Having An Identity Crisis"
No longer recognize the woman you married? The history of your marriage rewritten? Ignoring life duties to pursue a new lifestyle?
- Signs your wife is having a midlife crisis, or some other kind of identity crisis.
- What's going on behind the chaos of her hurtful words and actions.
- How long does a midlife crisis last?
- How to respond in a way that preserves your marriage and your sanity.
"My Wife Hates Me"
Whether she says the words or not, your wife makes it clear that she doesn't like you and doesn't enjoy being married to you.
- The real reasons why she is mean, cold, disrespectful, or all of the above.
- Communication strategies to deal with no-win conversations, including how to handle "female rage".
- How to salvage your marriage into a relationship that you both enjoy.
"Divorce Is Already In Motion"
Your wife has just asked for divorce, and you need to get your bearings straight. Or, maybe you are already well into the divorce process and are looking for help healing.
- How can you save your marriage once it's at the point of divorce?
- Answers to the pragmatic issues that come up throughout the process.
- How to heal and look forward to the next chapter of your life.
- Whether it's possible to reconcile with your wife after divorce.
Husband Help Haven:
A Safe Place For Men Going Through Marriage Crisis
Lots of In-Depth Articles
This is where you can find many of the strategic pillars that define my approach here on Husband Help Haven. Written articles feature in-depth advice on specific questions, comprehensive strategies and mindset tips, and some reader Q&A.
A Thoughtful Podcast for Husbands In Crisis
The Husband Help Haven Podcast is a great place to get weekly encouragement to help guide you through your separation. Each episode runs about 20 minutes, intended to give you easy-to-digest and practical tips to help you survive separation and build the marriage of your dreams.
A 90-Minute Starter Course For Separated Men
My practical survival course for men going separation covers everything you need to know all in one place. My goal with Husband Help Haven is to save marriages first, really and truly, so almost all of the core concepts taught in the course are available in some way for free on the site. However, the course is where we go more in-depth, you get more support
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The 3+1 Separation Strategy to Get Your Wife Back
The 3+1 Separation Strategy is a powerful, simple and actionable outline of the strategy that I’ve seen the most men follow to get their wife back after separation. It’s three steps working towards one goal, all to give you the best chance possible at saving your marriage.
#24. Three-Word Phrases Every Wife Needs To Hear
How do you know when it really is time to be done waiting for your wife to come back? This is the other side of the question answered in the previous episode. As a pro-marriage optimist, please know that I’m rarely going to tell you to move on from your marriage, but in this episode I will share the reasons that I’ve seen other separated men make that decision for themselves.
#23. 5 Reasons You Might Decide To Be Done Waiting For Your Wife
How do you know when it really is time to be done waiting for your wife to come back? This is the other side of the question answered in the previous episode. As a pro-marriage optimist, please know that I’m rarely going to tell you to move on from your marriage, but in this episode I will share the reasons that I’ve seen other separated men make that decision for themselves.
#22. 6 Reasons To Keep Waiting For Your Wife To Come Back
Do you ever question if it’s worth waiting for your wife to come back? Does it feel like your separation is dragging on indefinitely? We all need to be reminded sometimes why we do the things we do. This episode is for the men who are sick of being in no man’s land, and need a pep talk to remember why they’re still holding onto hope for their wife.
#21. How Much Longer Until She Comes Back?
“Stephen, I know you can’t tell me an exact timeframe, but based on your experience, how much longer do you think this separation will last? How long ’til she comes back? How long until she pushes through the divorce?”
This is the question we’ll be answering on today’s episode of the Husband Help Haven Podcast. We’ll look at the baseline average length of a separation, then we’ll look at seven factors that can influence how much longer you have in yours.
#20. Marcus Farris Shares His Journey Through Separation, Infidelity & Divorce
Not every story has a happy ending.
Or maybe, the happy ending isn’t always what we believe it will be.
That’s exactly the case for Marcus Farris, a former Peace & Control student who is now living on the other side of divorce. In today’s episode, we sit down to talk honestly about what happened in his marriage, separation and divorce. He bares his heart and shares all his struggles and successes that he experienced on his journey through marriage crisis.
Hey there, I'm Stephen
I'm the guy behind Husband Help Haven, and that's me with my wife, Kalee. I am a Christian, I have 3 kids (currently 4, 7 and an adopted 20), I've been married for 9 years, and I've spent the past 10+ years on Husband Help Haven doing everything I can to help men like you save their marriage.
I didn't start out intending to coach men through their separations... In the beginning, this was a hobby site. After my parents divorce, I wanted to explore what I could do to safeguard my own impending marriage. Every now and then someone would reach out asking for help, but I mostly just offered these men a listening ear and an earnest suggestion here or there.
Eventually, I noticed (and men told me) what worked and what didn't. My advice improved. More and more men began coming to me for help. When men followed my advice, they felt things change. I got very good at helping men find their confidence again, thus enabling them to effectively live out their commitment to their marriage with integrity and strength.
Fast forward to today. I have developed an entire strategic system to help men re-discover what it means to love when life gets hard. I have personally coached or otherwise assisted well over 1,000 men through separation, infidelity, divorce and everything in between. Thousands men more have signed up for my courses, and tens of thousands have subscribed to receive my free email lessons to get marriage advice that is unlike anything else out there.
Why? Because my advice isn't based on a textbook, a degree, or letters behind my name... Instead, it's based on what I've learned walking with real men through real marriage crises, over and over and over again.
Want to learn more? You can check out the About Me page for the full story.