How to Get Your Wife Back After Separation

The 3+1 Separation Strategy to Get Your Wife Back

The 3+1 Separation Strategy is a powerful, simple and actionable outline of the strategy that I’ve seen the most men follow to get their wife back after separation. It’s three steps working towards one goal, all to give you the best chance possible at saving your marriage.

How Much Longer Til She Comes Back Episode Cover

#21. How Much Longer Until She Comes Back?

“Stephen, I know you can’t tell me an exact timeframe, but based on your experience, how much longer do you think this separation will last? How long ’til she comes back? How long until she pushes through the divorce?”

This is the question we’ll be answering on today’s episode of the Husband Help Haven Podcast. We’ll look at the baseline average length of a separation, then we’ll look at seven factors that can influence how much longer you have in yours.

Interview with Marcus Farris about his divorce

#20. Marcus Farris Shares His Journey Through Separation, Infidelity & Divorce

Not every story has a happy ending.

Or maybe, the happy ending isn’t always what we believe it will be.

That’s exactly the case for Marcus Farris, a former Peace & Control student who is now living on the other side of divorce. In today’s episode, we sit down to talk honestly about what happened in his marriage, separation and divorce. He bares his heart and shares all his struggles and successes that he experienced on his journey through marriage crisis.

Friendship To Attraction Once She's Started Coming Back

#19 – From Friendship To Attraction Once She’s Started Coming Back

In the last episode, we talked about how to get out of your wife’s friend zone when you’re early in the separation… But what about when you’re beginning to rebuild the marriage on the other side of separation?

What do you do when your wife is starting to come back, but can’t seem to get those pesky “feelings” back?

That’s the subject of this week’s episode. We’ll talk about developing an effective mindset to survive this phase of separation, and what you can do to lead the way from a genuinely renewed friendship with your wife back to a loving, happy marriage.

How To Get Out Of Your Wife's Friend Zone During Separation

#18. Stuck In Your Wife’s “Friend Zone”? Here’s What To Do

“Stephen, my wife and I get along great, but she has no attraction to me. I think I’m stuck in her friend zone. What should I do?” This is the question we’ll be answering on today’s episode of the Husband Help Haven Podcast. I’ll tell you right now, I don’t particularly like the term “friend zone”, …

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Holidays During Separation - 7 Tips To Make The Most Of Christmas and Thanksgiving When Your Wife Wants Out

#16 – Holidays During Separation – 7 Tips To Make The Most Of Them When Your Wife Wants Out

The holidays can be tricky when you’re separated. Made worse by the fact that the new year is often a time where a separated wife may choose to move forward with divorce.

In this episode, I’ll share the 7 most common pieces of advice that I give men at this time of year. These are tips intended to help you stay stable, focused and confident as you navigate the last weeks of the year.

#11 – 5 Reminders To Help Endure A Long-Lasting Separation

How do you endure a separation that drags on for months on end? In today’s episode, I’m sharing the 5 most common reminders that I give to men who are in long-lasting separations.For example, how do you keep the ball rolling once the relationship starts to improve?How do you handle a wife that keeps bringing up …

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#10 – The Separation Roadmap

Over time, I’ve noticed that there tend to be four major stages between marriage and divorce… Today’s episode covers these stages in what I call the Separation Roadmap. It is an overview of each one of these stages with answers to a few key questions about each one.

Get Your Wife Back With Attraction

#05 – Get Your Wife Back With Attraction

The first of a five-part Get Your Wife Back With… series, in this episode we will talk about how to get your wife back with attraction.

Attraction – something we talk a lot about here on Husband Help Haven – is the feeling that creates a wanting from your wife for the marriage. Often, it’s one of the biggest things missing by the time a marriage hits the point of separation.

#02 – Separation Strategy Part 2: Become The Man You Want To Be

The second step of the 3+1 Separation Strategy is all about self-improvement. With self-control firmly in place, we can harness that discipline to start making meaningful changes in you as a man, husband and father. In this episode, I’ll walk you through a few different ways you can pinpoint the type of man you want …

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Separation Strategy Part 1 - Stop The Desperation, Focus On What You Can Control

#01 – 3+1 Separation Strategy Part 1: Stop The Desperation, Find Your Focus

We’re kicking off the Husband Help Haven Podcast with an in-depth walk through of the 3+1 Separation Strategy.In this first episode, we’ll overview the strategy as a whole, where it came from and why I recommend it as a starting point for most men facing separation.Once we’ve over-viewed the strategy, we’ll finish the episode by …

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Separation During Quarantine – Preserving Your Marriage When Life Gets (Very) Hard

Prefer to listen? Use the mp3 player above ^^Did you hope that your wife would put the separation on the backburner during quarantine? When the quarantine started, most separated men I talked to really hoped that this crisis would somehow pull their wife back to the marriage and bring the family back together.But, if you’re like …

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Valentines Day During Separation

10 Valentine’s Day Gift Ideas When You’re Separated

With Valentine’s Day coming up, I’ve been getting a lot of questions from separated men who need help navigating the holiday of love. Usually the question goes like this: “My wife and I are separated… What should I do for Valentine’s Day? How do I pick a gift that shows I still care about her and haven’t given up on the marriage, but doesn’t pressure or smother her?”

Husbandly Leadership - Is That Sexist

Is Husbandly Leadership Sexist? 6 Reasons I Confidently Say “No!”

I was a full-time freelance writer when I first started Husband Help Haven. The Haven was a personal passion project that I did not share with potential clients in my writing portfolio. One of my ongoing clients was a woman who owned a marketing agency. We’d met in-person several times (rare when you work online) and …

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How to Recover From Divorce

7 In-Depth Ways to Recover After Divorce & Heal (More) Fully

Divorce is one of the most painful experiences any person on this earth will endure. Especially if you’ve given it your all to save the marriage.

How do you heal as efficiently as possible after divorce? What if you’re not ready to give up hope on your old marriage? What common pitfalls make divorce recovery more difficult or painful?

My wife wants to leave after Christmas

My Wife Wants A Divorce After Christmas, What Do I Do?

Did you know that more marriages end after the holidays than any other time of year?

A Christmas divorce is every man’s worst nightmare, and yet many men are already facing the possibility of losing their marriage in the new year. For these men, what was supposed to be a time of family and love has become a time of confusion, pain and depression.

As you continue reading, we’re going to figure out why your wife wants a divorce after Christmas, and what you can do about it.

How To Get The Most Out Of Marriage Counseling

Set These 2 Goals To Get More Out Of Marriage Counseling

Studies show that when both spouses are motivated to go to marriage counseling, the relationship is very likely to improve with the right counselor. This means marriage counseling doesn’t work very well as a last resort, but it is an effective tool for couples who know they need help. By the time you finish reading this post, you’ll feel inspired to commit to marriage counseling, and you’ll know exactly how to get the most relationship improvement possible from each counseling session.

How to Find A Marriage Counselor

How To Find Your Perfect Marriage Counselor

All marriage counselors are not created equal.

If you want a better marriage, you NEED due diligence when choosing a counselor. You can’t afford to pick the wrong counselor because every session counts.

Through my experience talking with 1,700+ men going through separation, I’ve seen a lot of men try marriage counseling. Some had a great experience, others found that counseling only made things worse. Plus, my wife and I did some counseling last year, so I have personal experience with this.

As you continue reading, you’ll find everything I’ve learned about finding a good marriage counselor.

Does Marriage Counseling Work

Does Marriage Counseling Work? Yes, But…

Does marriage counseling work? Yes, but not for everyone. Get detailed marriage counseling success statistics, plus a simple 3-question quiz to show you whether your marriage is one of the ones that counseling can help.

What To Do If Your Wife Has Postpartum Depression

How To Help Your Wife With Postpartum Depression (what I learned)

My wife had postpartum depression, and it was the first time in my marriage that I really felt like a problem was out of my league. I went through so much painful trial and error until we finally saw a counselor who had experience with PPD. Only then was I confident that I was helping my wife survive PPD to the best of my ability. I’d like to help you skip all that… I’m going to teach you everything I wish I’d known when all this started. This post is divided up into two main parts.

Should you move out to give your wife space

Should You Move Out to Give Your Wife Space?

Let’s step away from the divorce strategy talk for a moment. Let’s assume you’ve done your due diligence, you’ve talked to a lawyer, and you’ve done the move out checklist… At the very least, you are prepared for the worst-case scenario. You know the risk. Now let’s talk about the rewards… What are the potential benefits of moving out?

5 Legal Risks of Moving Out During Separation (and how to protect yourself)

There is a reason that most divorce attorneys will tell you to stay in the marital home as long as possible. Moving out can have big consequences in your divorce, which I’ve categorized in 5 key areas. The good news is that if you plan ahead and do things right, you can protect yourself from a lot of these risks. As you continue reading, we’re going to look at each of these areas of risk, and what you need to do to safeguard yourself.

How to get your wife back with no contact

4 Separation Strategies When Your Wife Won’t See You

You’ve made positive changes as a man, and you’re a better husband than the day your wife left. The problem is, your wife can’t see any of it because she won’t see you or communicate with you. And if you do see her, she gives you the cold shoulder. How do you show your wife your changes if you live apart and she won’t communicate?

Dear Dad,

Happy Father’s Day! I wanted to write you this letter for a couple reasons. First, because it’s Father’s Day and this is a good time to talk about the role you’ve had in my life.
Second, because I finally sent you a copy of MMR a few weeks ago, and I think there are some things that need to be cleared up. Read on to see how you’ve shaped my life.

7 Non-Cliche Ways to Make Your Wife Feel Heard

7 Non-Cliché Ways to Make Your Wife Feel Heard

A wife who does not feel heard will never feel loved. Every wife wants to feel heard. Many times, especially in a purely “loss of love” driven separation, her decision to leave will revolve around her increased belief that she will NEVER be heard inside the marriage. Read on to learn how to start truly hearing your wife.

Separation question survey results

Results from Last Week’s Separation Question Survey

Last week, I asked the husbands Inside the Haven to share their single biggest struggle in their separation. Over 150 men submitted their separation questions. These are the results, organized by topic. See what other men on Husband Help Haven are struggling with too. (most of these will be answered in the separation book)

Why Losing Your Marriage is Just Like Getting Fat

Why Losing Your Marriage is Just Like Getting Fat

I was looking in the mirror this morning and I realized something: I’m getting fat. I’m not saying I need to book two airplane seats or anything. My wife still tells me I’m handsome. The problem is, that always-critical scale tells me I’ve slapped on 45 lbs over the past five years. What’s this have to do with your marriage? Find out below.

The REAL Reason Your Wif

The Real Reason Your Wife is Bossy (and what you can do about it)

The bossy, nagging wife is a classic American stereotype. It can be found in just about every family sitcom of the past 50 years. Unfortunately, many men find it a harshly realistic stereotype that’s coming true in their marriage. If this is you…You probably feel like your wife is always criticizing you, or like you can …

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I Caught My Son Looking at Porn

“I Caught My Son Looking at Porn, What Do I Do?”

It’s finally happened… Your son got curious about naked women and searched for dirty pictures online. Maybe you came home to find his search still in the search bar… Maybe you got a surprisingly inappropriate pop up… Maybe you needed to use his laptop or phone and found inappropriate links in his browsing history… Either way, you need to know what to do from here.

Am I Addicted to Porn

The “Am I Addicted to Porn?” Quiz

Being addicted to porn is just like being addicted to drugs or alcohol. So, it shouldn’t come as any surprise that most men won’t let themselves admit they’re addicted. Denial is a strong state of mind! Chances are, if you’ve ever actually asked yourself, “Am I addicted to porn,” the answer is probably yes.