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How to Get Your Wife Back After Separation

The 3+1 Separation Strategy to Get Your Wife Back

The 3+1 Separation Strategy is a powerful, simple and actionable outline of the strategy that I’ve seen the most men follow to get their wife back after separation. It’s three steps working towards one goal, all to give you the best chance possible at saving your marriage.

10 Valentine’s Day Gift Ideas When You’re Separated [UPDATED]

With Valentine’s Day coming up, I’ve been getting a lot of questions from separated men who need help navigating the holiday of love. Usually the question goes like this: “My wife and I are separated… What should I do for Valentine’s Day? How do I pick a gift that shows I still care about her and haven’t given up on the marriage, but doesn’t pressure or smother her?”

7 In-Depth Ways to Recover After Divorce & Heal (More) Fully

Divorce is one of the most painful experiences any person on this earth will endure. Especially if you’ve given it your all to save the marriage.

How do you heal as efficiently as possible after divorce? What if you’re not ready to give up hope on your old marriage? What common pitfalls make divorce recovery more difficult or painful?

4 Goals for Husband Help Haven in 2019

Happy New Year everyone! Yesterday I shared my 2018 performance review, scoring myself across 4 key areas of my life. Today, I’m shifting gears to plan 2019. Specifically, in this post I’m going to be sharing my goals for Husband Help Haven in the year ahead. For the first time in 6 years, my wife […]

Review of 2018: How I Scored Myself in 4 Key Areas

Featured image: the kids at the birth center with Kalee and I right after Lyon’s birth, Oct. 25, 2018 It’s that time of year again, when no matter how much you tell yourself that January 1st is just another day, you still end up doing stereotypical year-end-review and New Year’s goal setting. I know it’s […]

My Wife Wants A Divorce After Christmas, What Do I Do?

Did you know that more marriages end after the holidays than any other time of year?

A Christmas divorce is every man’s worst nightmare, and yet many men are already facing the possibility of losing their marriage in the new year. For these men, what was supposed to be a time of family and love has become a time of confusion, pain and depression.

As you continue reading, we’re going to figure out why your wife wants a divorce after Christmas, and what you can do about it.

Mid-2018 Personal Update: Pregnancy, Foster Care, New Course

Things have been pretty quiet here at Husband Help Haven over the summer, so I figured this was a good time to go ahead and share a quick update about what’s been going on behind the scenes in the Waldo home. I’ll tell you up front, all is well! Just busy life as usual, with […]

9 Ways to Romance Your Wife & Strengthen Your Marriage

Do you want to know how to romance your wife? Do you want to rekindle your marriage to burn even more passionately than before? Learn what you’re doing wrong here!

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How Do I Convince My Wife Not to Leave? Here’s A Different Approach…

Are you looking for the exact thing to say to get your wife to stay in the marriage? How do you get her to believe what you already know — that the marriage can make her happier than divorce, if she would just put in the work with you? Before I tell you the answer, I’d like to ask you a question…

How To Get The Most Out Of Marriage Counseling

Set These 2 Goals To Get More Out Of Marriage Counseling

Studies show that when both spouses are motivated to go to marriage counseling, the relationship is very likely to improve with the right counselor. This means marriage counseling doesn’t work very well as a last resort, but it is an effective tool for couples who know they need help. By the time you finish reading this post, you’ll feel inspired to commit to marriage counseling, and you’ll know exactly how to get the most relationship improvement possible from each counseling session.

How To Find Your Perfect Marriage Counselor

All marriage counselors are not created equal.

If you want a better marriage, you NEED due diligence when choosing a counselor. You can’t afford to pick the wrong counselor because every session counts.

Through my experience talking with 1,700+ men going through separation, I’ve seen a lot of men try marriage counseling. Some had a great experience, others found that counseling only made things worse. Plus, my wife and I did some counseling last year, so I have personal experience with this.

As you continue reading, you’ll find everything I’ve learned about finding a good marriage counselor.

Does Marriage Counseling Work? Yes, But…

Does marriage counseling work? Yes, but not for everyone. Get detailed marriage counseling success statistics, plus a simple 3-question quiz to show you whether your marriage is one of the ones that counseling can help.

What To Do If Your Wife Has Postpartum Depression

How To Help Your Wife With Postpartum Depression (what I learned)

My wife had postpartum depression, and it was the first time in my marriage that I really felt like a problem was out of my league. I went through so much painful trial and error until we finally saw a counselor who had experience with PPD. Only then was I confident that I was helping my wife survive PPD to the best of my ability. I’d like to help you skip all that… I’m going to teach you everything I wish I’d known when all this started. This post is divided up into two main parts.

9 Signs My Wife Had Postpartum Depression (that I wish I’d seen sooner)

I still remember how hard it was. I remember how painful it was for my wife. Those first 14 months of Eden’s life were some of the most difficult months of our lives. My wife was struggling with postpartum depression, but we had no idea. As soon as my wife figured out that she had PPD, it was like a light at the end of the tunnel. We had hope again.

2017 in Review – The Hardest Year of My Life

Normally when you read a post like this, you’ll hear about all the awesome things that happened in the past year, how great it was and how many things went right. I’m going to be completely honest with you guys:This year sucked. Big time. My wife and I faced more trial, failure and loss this year than […]

Should You Move Out to Give Your Wife Space?

Let’s step away from the divorce strategy talk for a moment. Let’s assume you’ve done your due diligence, you’ve talked to a lawyer, and you’ve done the move out checklist… At the very least, you are prepared for the worst-case scenario. You know the risk. Now let’s talk about the rewards… What are the potential benefits of moving out?

5 Legal Risks of Moving Out During Separation (and how to protect yourself)

There is a reason that most divorce attorneys will tell you to stay in the marital home as long as possible. Moving out can have big consequences in your divorce, which I’ve categorized in 5 key areas. The good news is that if you plan ahead and do things right, you can protect yourself from a lot of these risks. As you continue reading, we’re going to look at each of these areas of risk, and what you need to do to safeguard yourself.

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4 Separation Strategies When Your Wife Won’t See You

You’ve made positive changes as a man, and you’re a better husband than the day your wife left. The problem is, your wife can’t see any of it because she won’t see you or communicate with you. And if you do see her, she gives you the cold shoulder. How do you show your wife your changes if you live apart and she won’t communicate?

My Wife’s Friends & Family Want Her to Divorce

One of the hardest obstacles to overcome in a separation are friends and family who actively encourage divorce. Here are two things you can do to help your wife tune out the bad influences and start seeing things clearly.

How to Get Out of Your Wife’s “Friend Zone” (after she’s moved out)

My wife asked for a divorce and has moved in with her parents. She says it’s because she doesn’t love me anymore. She sees me as her best friend and says that’s the biggest reason why our sex life became horrible over the past couple years. How do I get out of the “friend zone” and become someone she wants to be intimate with again?

My Wife Took Off Her Wedding Ring – Should I Keep Mine On?

My wife and I are separated and she has taken off her wedding ring. I still wear mine because I am committed to fighting for our marriage. Should I take my ring off to try and relieve pressure on her? Or is it better to keep it on to show her I want the marriage to work?

What’s Coming From the Haven in 2017?

In this post I’ll cover the four major goals that I hope to accomplish on the Haven by the end of 2017.

A Long Overdue Update + New Free Guide

Learn about a new free resource I’ve just published on Husband Help Haven. Plus, get an inside look at what’s been going on behind the scenes in my personal life over the past 7 months; there have been 3 major changes in my family’s life.

Dear Dad,

Happy Father’s Day! I wanted to write you this letter for a couple reasons. First, because it’s Father’s Day and this is a good time to talk about the role you’ve had in my life.
Second, because I finally sent you a copy of MMR a few weeks ago, and I think there are some things that need to be cleared up. Read on to see how you’ve shaped my life.

7 Non-Cliche Ways to Make Your Wife Feel Heard

7 Non-Cliché Ways to Make Your Wife Feel Heard

A wife who does not feel heard will never feel loved. Every wife wants to feel heard. Many times, especially in a purely “loss of love” driven separation, her decision to leave will revolve around her increased belief that she will NEVER be heard inside the marriage. Read on to learn how to start truly hearing your wife.

How to Lead Your Marriage When She Wants Out

No husband is ever prepared for his wife to want out of the marriage. Learn the four most common mistakes men make when trying to get their wife back, followed by the three leadership strategies I’ve seen the most men use to save their marriage.

The Let Her Go to Get Her Back Mindset

What’s the very first thing you MUST do to get your wife back? Let her go. I know, it sounds backwards, but this mindset actually puts you in a win-win position. Read more to learn why you need this mindset and how to start using it in your marriage today.

Results from Last Week’s Separation Question Survey

Last week, I asked the husbands Inside the Haven to share their single biggest struggle in their separation. Over 150 men submitted their separation questions. These are the results, organized by topic. See what other men on Husband Help Haven are struggling with too. (most of these will be answered in the separation book)

Why Losing Your Marriage is Just Like Getting Fat

I was looking in the mirror this morning and I realized something: I’m getting fat. I’m not saying I need to book two airplane seats or anything. My wife still tells me I’m handsome. The problem is, that always-critical scale tells me I’ve slapped on 45 lbs over the past five years. What’s this have to do with your marriage? Find out below.

Why is Your Wife Having a Midlife Crisis?

Why is your wife going through a midlife crisis? In six years, seeing hundreds and hundreds of MLCs has taught me that there is one single underlying reason behind every midlife crisis in a marriage.

9 Signs Your Wife is Having a Midlife Crisis

If it feels like your wife is determined to push away from the marriage… If she’s decided that there’s NO WAY the marriage can make her happy, she may be going through a midlife crisis.

How to Handle Valentine’s Day When Your Wife Wants Out

Your wife is distant, maybe even separated, but you still want to celebrate Valentine’s Day. How can you show her you love her without pushing her away?

My Wife is Always Mean, What Do I Do? (Reader Question)

In this week’s Reader Question, we talk about what to do when your wife is constantly negative, disrespectful and mean to you, even when she has no good reason. You’ll learn two steps you should take, and what your goal should be as a husband when your wife is always mean.

My Stay-at-Home Wife Feels Like She Wasted Her Life (and now she wants out)

Dear Stephen,My wife and I started dating when she was 16 and I was 18. We got married when she was 20 and started our family at a young age. My wife is a great woman and has been a stay-at-home mom for the last 14 years.The problem is now that our youngest child is […]

9 Things Every Wife Needs From Her Husband

In almost all of the separations, affairs and divorces I’ve seen in my years running Husband Help Haven, at least one of these 9 ‘things’ is missing from the marriage.

My Wife is in Love With Her Best Friend’s Husband

Reader Question: “My wife is having an emotional affair with her so-called “best friend’s” husband, and now she says she’s done with the marriage. What do I do?”

Should I Show My Wife Proof of Her Affair? [Reader Question]

Reader question: “I found out that my wife cheated on me about a month ago and that she’s been sexting other men for about a year, but she doesn’t know I have proof…”

The Leadership Cycle: How & Why Leadership Makes Marriage Work

For many years I’ve tried to explain why leadership is crucial, both in enjoying happy marriages and repairing damaged ones. I’ve struggled to explain how exactly it relates to the other elements that are really and truly required in a marriage, like love and trust and forgiveness.

The Real Reason Your Wife is Bossy (and what you can do about it)

The bossy, nagging wife is a classic American stereotype. It can be found in just about every family sitcom of the past 50 years. Unfortunately, many men find it a harshly realistic stereotype that’s coming true in their marriage. If this is you… You probably feel like your wife is always criticizing you, or like […]

“I Caught My Son Looking at Porn, What Do I Do?”

It’s finally happened… Your son got curious about naked women and searched for dirty pictures online. Maybe you came home to find his search still in the search bar… Maybe you got a surprisingly inappropriate pop up… Maybe you needed to use his laptop or phone and found inappropriate links in his browsing history… Either way, you need to know what to do from here.

12-Week Porn Addiction Withdrawal Walkthrough

Knowing what to expect when you’re going through porn addiction withdrawal is crucial to fighting temptation. When you understand what your body is going to throw at you, it’s a lot easier to say, “This is normal and I just have to get through it.”

Porn Addiction Symptoms – How Porn Morphs Your Brain

Did you know that erectile dysfunction is the most common reason that young men decide to stop looking at porn? And this isn’t any normal ED we’re talking about either… ED from Internet porn addiction is completely untreatable. Learn other surprisingly common porn addiction symptoms here.

The “Am I Addicted to Porn?” Quiz

Being addicted to porn is just like being addicted to drugs or alcohol. So, it shouldn’t come as any surprise that most men won’t let themselves admit they’re addicted. Denial is a strong state of mind! Chances are, if you’ve ever actually asked yourself, “Am I addicted to porn,” the answer is probably yes.

26 Shocking Porn Statistics Most Men Don’t Know

Porn is harmless, right? Just a little private pleasure; something you can do on the side without making any sacrifice. How many other men tell themselves the same thing? As you read through the statistics below, you’ll know.

The Thanksgiving Dinner Problem & How I Solved It

You can solve marriage problems faster and easier when you use this straightforward three-step thought process to help you make the right decisions. It all started when I got into a fight with my wife this weekend. See how the fight started and what I did to solve it as you continue reading below.

The Ultimate “Am I Having an Emotional Affair?” Quiz

Are you having an emotional affair? Or maybe you suspect that your spouse is. Either way, this 15 question emotional affair quiz will reveal the truth.

How to Forgive an Emotional Affair

Figuring out how to forgive an emotional affair is one of the most difficult things you will ever do. Here are 9 simple tips to make it easier.

How to Permanently End an Emotional Affair in 6 Steps

If you need to know how to and an emotional affair completely and permanently, then this simple step-by-step guide will show you exactly how to do it.

How to Survive an Emotional Affair and Keep Your Manhood

Struggling to survive an emotional affair? Are her feelings for another man driving you crazy? Get 6 steps to cope with the frustration, guilt and loneliness.

Emotional Affair Signs – Does Your Wife Love Another Man?

Have you ever suspected that your wife is in love with another man? Learn the most common emotional affair signs that tell you where her heart truly lies.

What Is An Emotional Affair?

What is an emotional affair? How is it defined? Is it worse than a physical affair? How does platonic friendship turn into emotional infidelity?

Open Communication Won't Save Your Marriage

Good Communication Won’t Save Your Marriage – What?!

Ask anyone: Better communication will save your marriage and get your wife back…Right? If this is what you think, read this article to learn the shocking truth. It’s not quite that easy!

How to Talk To Your Wife When She’s Leaving

Are you struggling to talk to your wife now that she’s told you she wants to leave? Do still you want to save your marriage, with or without her help? Read more here…

What’s the Real Reason Your Wife Wants to Leave?

Does your wife want to leave you? Do you know why? If you’re not completely sure, then read this article to learn the REAL reason your wife is leaving you.

My Wife is Threatening to Leave Me, What Do I Do?

Is your wife threatening to leave? Then you need advice to turn your marriage around fast. Read on to learn what’s keeping you from the marriage of your dreams.

What’s the Secret Ingredient for a Happy Marriage?

Do you feel like your marriage is slipping away? Is there a numb distance between you and your wife? Learn what trait is missing from your marriage, and how to get it back. Don’t let your marriage destroy itself!

9 Meaningful Gift Ideas Your Wife Will Love

Wondering what you can give your wife to make her happy? Looking for that perfect gift? Learn 9 gifts proven to make your wife happy and keep your marriage fun.

What is the Average Cost of Marriage Counseling?

What’s the average cost of marriage counseling? Learn (A) the cost of marriage counseling, (B) how many sessions, and (C) is it marriage counseling worth it?

11 Signs Your Wife Wants a Divorce

Discover the most common signs your wife wants a divorce so that you can start (A) saving your marriage or (B) preparing for divorce.

My Wife is Leaving Because I Lost My Job

Is your wife leaving because you lost your job? Learn what this means for your marriage and what you can do about it, even before you get a new job.

9 Common Sense Pieces of Divorce Advice for Men

You Need Divorce Advice for Men? Discover 9 Powerful Tips to Come Out on Top (A) Emotionally, (B) Mentally, and (C) Physically When You Divorce Your Wife.

How to Handle a Wife Leaving Husband and Kids

Do you need to know how to handle a wife leaving her husband and kids? Learn what your kids need from you after she leaves, and how to give it to them.

What’s the Average Cost of Divorcing My Wife?

Do you want to know the average cost of divorcing your wife? Discover the important factors that affect how much divorce will cost you here.

Should I Sell the House Before or After the Divorce?

Discover the pros and cons of selling the house before the divorce, selling your house after the divorce, and which option makes more sense for you.

My Wife Wants a Divorce, But I Don’t

“My wife wants divorce and I don’t, how can I get her back?” Learn why she’s leaving and how to save your marriage here.

My Wife Wants a Divorce for Looking at Porn

“My wife caught me looking at porn, and now she wants a divorce…What should I do?” Learn how to get your wife back.

How to Get Your Ex Wife Back

Do you want to know how to get your ex wife back and rebuild your marriage – The right way – From the ground up? Learn 7 rules to follow, here.

How to Divorce Your Wife When There’s No Other Choice

Do you want to know how to tell your wife you want divorce? Learn what to say, how to say it, and when. 7 secrets you should know before divorcing your wife.

How to Show Your Wife You Love Her

Do you want to know how to show your wife you love her? Learn 25 surefire ways to show love to your wife and build a happier marriage for both of you!

Is My Wife Lying to Me?

Is my wife lying to me? Learn why she’s lying, why it’s okay for you to be suspicious, and 5 ways you can catch a lying wife red-handed.

How to Get Over My Wife’s Affair

“I don’t know how to get over my wife’s affair, I can’t stop thinking about how deeply she hurt me, and how she’s betrayed my trust.” Learn how to move forward.

How to Forgive a Cheating Wife

Do you want to know how to forgive a cheating wife when forgiveness seems impossible? Let me take you step by step through what you can do to forgive cheating.

How to Argue With My Wife?

Discover how to argue with your wife in a way that promotes a strong and passionate marriage. Learn the right way to communicate problems with your wife!

Signs of a Cheating Wife

Discover the top 8 most common signs of a cheating wife; learn exactly what to look for if your wife is having an affair…See if any of these ring a bell!

Why Did My Wife Cheat on Me?

“Why did my wife cheat on me…If I knew, maybe forgiveness would be easier.” Learn the top 3 reasons why women cheat on their husbands in the 21st century.

How NOT to Save Your Marriage – Don’t Make These Mistakes

If you want to know how to save your marriage, first you should focus on eliminating the negative patterns that are making your wife push you further away.

My Wife Cheated On Me, What Now?

“My wife cheated on me and I feel lost, confused and angry…What do I do?” Come inside to learn how to deal with a cheating wife and rebuild your marriage!

I Cheated on My Wife and She Left Me

“I cheated on my wife, and now I want to get her back, what do I do?” Read this guide to learn how to earn back your wife’s love and affection after adultery.

How to Love Your Wife Completely

If you’re like 90% of husbands, then you don’t really know how to love your wife…Learn how to be romantic to your wife and unlock your marriage’s full potential!

Your Marriage Savior Review – Both Pros & Cons

An honest and real Your Marriage Savior review with both pros and cons. Don’t waste your money until you know it will save your marriage!

The Unsung Secret to Getting Your Wife Back

Want to know the secret to getting your wife back? Most men never learn how women work, what turns them on, and how to be naturally irresistible to your wife!

How to Honestly Express Yourself to Your Wife

Discover (A) how to communicate with your wife effectively, even (B) after communication has completely broken down, plus (C) my most powerful communication secret!

Husband Help Haven Mission Statement

HusbandHelpHaven.com is made for husbands who need to know how to get your wife back, save your marriage, or rekindle passion…We’re here to help you!