You’re wife’s infidelity has left you shocked.
Affairs are confusing. They don’t make sense.
You’re probably asking yourself…
“Why did my wife cheat on me?”
“What could I have done to stop her from having an affair?”
“Is it my fault that my wife was unfaithful?”
Let’s get one thing straight:
No matter how terrible of a husband you may have been in the past, there is never a situation where your wife “deserves” to have an affair.
No matter what, your wife should not have cheated on you.
No matter what, you should not have been forced to face her infidelity.
It’s not your fault. There’s nothing you could’ve done. She just…Cheated.
But this doesn’t really answer your question…
“Why did my wife cheat on me?”
As you continue reading this article, I’d like to answer some common questions about cheating wives. You’re going to learn three of the most common reasons that women cheat on their husbands.
“Why Did My Wife Cheat on Me?”
3 Common Reasons Why Wives Cheat
Please note that these are only three of the hundreds of reasons that women can decide to cheat on their husbands.
In fact, sometimes there is no reason at all.
Some women just can’t be bothered to maintain the sanctity of monogamy in marriage. No two ways about it.
It sounds terrible, but it’s true. It happens.
So take these reasons with a grain of salt; I can’t say for sure what sent your wife down the path of a lying and cheating spouse.
I hope these reasons help you see what relationship or personality problems led to her affair, which will hopefully make it easier to survive infidelity and rebuild trust. Even though it’s hard, empathy and forgiveness will be required to save your marriage.
She Thought She Was In Love With A Crush
Women are very emotional creatures.
Almost every decision they make is based on emotion, or on the way it makes them feel.
For your wife, what feels “right” emotionally is also what makes the most sense logically. Not the other way around.
So, she’s bored in the marriage, or unhappy, or whatever. She feels bad.
What does she do?
Like any rational human being – Nothing at first. She waits to see if those feelings will go away. But, while she’s waiting, she meets someone… Someone she finds herself quite attracted to.
Two months later, your wife still hasn’t made any real effort to improve your marriage, however she has been improving her relationship with this “friend”.
She has a crush.
As time goes on and her resolve weakens, her feelings for this other man become stronger. Then it’s simply a matter of time.
Women are all about feeling. The affair happens when those feelings convince her that infidelity is the right thing to do. A charming new man usually helps speed along the process.
She Was Bored in Her Marriage & Cheating Was Easy
Boredom is part of marriage. That’s not a bad thing, it’s just the way it is. All relationships have their ups and downs.
Unfortunately, our society tells us that “being in love” should be fun all the time.
We live in an era of unreasonable expectations.
It should come as no surprise that newly weds are more likely to cheat. They haven’t yet experienced boredom in their relationship. They automatically assume the marriage was built on sham-love. The affair happens soon after.
The point is this – Boredom can easily lead to strong feelings of dissatisfaction.
If your wife doesn’t fix that dissatisfaction by making an effort to fix your marriage, or if you don’t get your wife back from that boredom, then she will turn to other relationships for that satisfaction she desires.
For her, having an affair is easier and more pleasurable than fixing the problems in your marriage, or making an effort to rekindle lost love.
The New Age Woman is Entitled
All her friends are doing it.
I’m willing to bet a few of your friends are, too.
Marriage is quickly losing its sanctity. Divorce and infidelity rates are the highest that they’ve ever been.
35% to 40% of women have cheated or will and 45 to 50% of men have cheated or will sometime in their lives.
There’s a trend in most popular infidelity-related websites, forums and other online communities that has women proudly proclaiming that they cheat on their husbands and that they’re happy to do it. They say to women just like your wife, “Live a little! Why should men be the only ones who get to have fun?”
Entitlement has become one of the key factors associated with cheating.
What Can You Do About it?
Depends on whether or not you still want to save your marriage.
I will be 100% upfront – a cheating wife is grounds for divorce. Tell yourself the truth; is this something you can recover from? Divorce may be the best route.
As they say, “once a cheater, always a cheater.”
If you haven’t found a suitable answer to “Why did my wife cheat on me?” then proceed with caution. However, if you want to save your marriage, then I encourage you to take things into your own hands.
We have lots of free material that you’re encouraged to read through here on HusbandHelpHaven.com. I encourage you to check out The 9 Essential Traits of a Good Husband.
Whatever you decide to do from here, whether it’s forgive or divorce, I know you will be okay.
You’re strong and you’re a man, don’t ever forget it!
Thanks for reading, it’s been a pleasure writing for you.
Much manly love,
With much manly love,
I'm Stephen, the guy behind Husband Help Haven. I'm not a marriage counselor or a lawyer, I'm just a guy on the Internet who has talked to a loooooot of men going through separation... Over 2,000 in the past 5 years. My goal is to give men the tools they need to save their marriage from separation. Read more here