Podcast Episodes

“Stephen, I know you can’t tell me an exact timeframe, but based on your experience, how much longer do you think this separation will last? How long ’til she comes back? How long until she pushes through the divorce?”

This is the question we’ll be answering on today’s episode of the Husband Help Haven Podcast. We’ll look at the baseline average length of a separation, then we’ll look at seven factors that can influence how much longer you have in yours.

Not every story has a happy ending.

Or maybe, the happy ending isn’t always what we believe it will be.

That’s exactly the case for Marcus Farris, a former Peace & Control student who is now living on the other side of divorce. In today’s episode, we sit down to talk honestly about what happened in his marriage, separation and divorce. He bares his heart and shares all his struggles and successes that he experienced on his journey through marriage crisis.

In the last episode, we talked about how to get out of your wife’s friend zone when you’re early in the separation… But what about when you’re beginning to rebuild the marriage on the other side of separation?

What do you do when your wife is starting to come back, but can’t seem to get those pesky “feelings” back?

That’s the subject of this week’s episode. We’ll talk about developing an effective mindset to survive this phase of separation, and what you can do to lead the way from a genuinely renewed friendship with your wife back to a loving, happy marriage.

“Stephen, my wife and I get along great, but she has no attraction to me. I think I’m stuck in her friend zone. What should I do?” This is the question we’ll be answering on today’s episode of the Husband Help Haven Podcast. I’ll tell you right now, I don’t particularly like the term “friend zone”, …

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Thankfulness and marital separation seem like they’d go together about as well as oil and water… What could you possibly have to be thankful for when your life as you knew it has been thrown into upheaval?

In this episode, we’re going to talk about three things…

The holidays can be tricky when you’re separated. Made worse by the fact that the new year is often a time where a separated wife may choose to move forward with divorce.

In this episode, I’ll share the 7 most common pieces of advice that I give men at this time of year. These are tips intended to help you stay stable, focused and confident as you navigate the last weeks of the year.

Today’s episode is in response to a recent question I got from a guy named JD. Basically, his wife is doing things that he feels are truly unacceptable, so his fear is that continuing to forgive her will simply enable her bad behavior.I love this question because it highlights two important concepts that often come …

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A recent personal experience highlights two reasons to choose to do what’s right even when the cost is steep.

Today we’ll talk in-depth about trust and 3 powerful ways you can rebuild it with your wife, even during separation.

How do you endure a separation that drags on for months on end? In today’s episode, I’m sharing the 5 most common reminders that I give to men who are in long-lasting separations.For example, how do you keep the ball rolling once the relationship starts to improve?How do you handle a wife that keeps bringing up …

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Over time, I’ve noticed that there tend to be four major stages between marriage and divorce… Today’s episode covers these stages in what I call the Separation Roadmap. It is an overview of each one of these stages with answers to a few key questions about each one.

Today we’ll be wrapping up the Get Your Wife Back With… series with a look at enforcing boundaries during separation. Learn how enforcing boundaries can be the thing that sparks your wife to change course and rethink leaving the marriage.

Can friendship pave the way back to a happy marriage?In the fourth episode of the Get Your Wife Back With… series, we’re looking at how to get your wife back with friendship. Seems simple on the surface, but we’ll talk about when it works best, signs that you’re doing it right, and a couple extra …

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Learn how stepping up as a father can help rebuild connection in your marriage, even during separation.

In part 3 of the Get Your Wife Back With… series, we will examine the role of good parenting and how that can help bridge the gap of separation to find common ground with your wife.

In the second episode of our 5-part Get Your Wife Back With… series, we are taking a look at how to get your wife back with space. No, I don’t mean staring up at the stars together, I mean shifting your attitude towards distance in the relationship during separation.Most separated wives ask for space at …

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The first of a five-part Get Your Wife Back With… series, in this episode we will talk about how to get your wife back with attraction.

Attraction – something we talk a lot about here on Husband Help Haven – is the feeling that creates a wanting from your wife for the marriage. Often, it’s one of the biggest things missing by the time a marriage hits the point of separation.

Why is trust the #1 thing we focus on throughout the 3+1 Separation Strategy?

Why is trust so important in rebuilding the foundation of a future happy marriage with your wife?

With self-control and self-improvement in place, we begin looking at how you can start showing your wife the man she could have if she stays.

The third and final step of the 3+1 Separation Strategy is where we harness the work of the first two steps in a way that begins improving your relationship with your wife.

The second step of the 3+1 Separation Strategy is all about self-improvement. With self-control firmly in place, we can harness that discipline to start making meaningful changes in you as a man, husband and father. In this episode, I’ll walk you through a few different ways you can pinpoint the type of man you want …

#02 – Separation Strategy Part 2: Become The Man You Want To Be Read More »

We’re kicking off the Husband Help Haven Podcast with an in-depth walk through of the 3+1 Separation Strategy.In this first episode, we’ll overview the strategy as a whole, where it came from and why I recommend it as a starting point for most men facing separation.Once we’ve over-viewed the strategy, we’ll finish the episode by …

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