“Stephen, I need to know how to get my ex wife back…
I realize it was a mistake to let the marriage become so poisoned. Things shouldn’t have ended in divorce..
Please tell me – Is there any hope for getting my ex wife to fall back in love with me?”
Throughout this article you will discover seven crucial tips to teach you how to get your ex wife back.
Right now your brain is probably a roller coaster of emotions and desperation – That’s okay!
First, calm down and buckle in. It’s going to be bumpy getting there, but everything is going to be okay in the end.
By the time you’re finished reading this in-depth article, you have what it takes to get your wife back and transform yourself into the husband she’s always fantasized about having.
In fact, let’s go ahead and get one thing straight:
Unless your wife wants YOU back, there is no way that you’ll be able to convince her to give you a second chance.
It just won’t happen.
How to Get Your Ex Wife Back
Using These 7 Surefire Tips
You’re going to learn how to get your ex wife back by becoming more like the man your wife always wanted, and bridging the massive emotional gap left in the wake of your divorce.
Read through each of these steps and incorporate them into your future relationship with your wife, as well as your present relationship with your self.
Never Let Yourself Lose Hope
It should be obvious why I listed this tip first. It is vital to the success of your future marriage that you never allow yourself to lose hope.
We aren’t defined by our actions when life is good, we are defined by our actions when life is bad.
Even if things don’t work out with your wife, you have to believe in yourself. You have to believe that you will be able to find happiness, no matter what.
This is for your own mental and emotional well-being. However, it’s also so that your wife sees you happy, hopeful and focused on the future.
Think about what you’ll be like if you can fix things with your wife. Start making yourself into that kind of man today… That man is helpful, he is happy and he is grateful.
Figure Out What REALLY Made Her Leave
Strange as it seems, seeing your marriage end doesn’t have to be a bad thing…
It finally allows you to truly reflect on what’s been wrong from the start. Now that you’re divorced, you can’t live in denial.
Now it’s your job to dissect your past marriage to find out where things went sour, so that you can correct them for your future one.
Please Note – I am not telling you to place blame for the problems in your marriage. As I said before, it is equal parts your own and your wife’s fault.
Reflect purely on your own side of things, on what you could have done differently to make your wife happy or to keep her attracted to you.
- Are there any specific actions or attitudes that you regret?
- Is there anything you said that you wish you could take back?
- How long has your marriage been going downhill?
- At what point did your marriage become unsalvageable?
By thinking about these questions you will be able to paint a more accurate picture of yourself and your marriage. This is important to ensure that your future marriage doesn’t break because of these same mistakes.
And it never hurts to show your wife that you recognize what could have gone differently, or where you went wrong.
Make Sure You’re Emotionally at 100%
This is somewhat related to Tip #1, but still needs to be emphasized anyways.
It’s important that you take this time away from your wife to recover, both emotionally and mentally, from the traumatic events that led to your divorce.
Build yourself back up to 100%. You want to be the best You that you can be before attempting to get your wife back.
When you can show your wife that you’re happy without her, it will automatically make her want to be with you more.
Don’t ask me why, it’s just the way things are.
Call it Murphy’s Law, call it sexist, call it whatever you want, but I’ve seen it happen and I know you will to. When you’re emotionally stable, you’ll be better able to give your wife what she needs, both in terms of getting her back and once the marriage is back on track.
When it Comes to Contact, Less is More
Many husbands who want to get their ex-wives back make this mistake:
As soon as you regret the decision to get divorced, you immediately make contact with your wife and let her know you want to rebuild the marriage.
DO NOT MAKE THIS MISTAKE!!!
You do not have to contact your wife as soon as you have the revelation that you want to get back together.
In fact, it would be better to hold off.
When it comes to getting your wife back and rekindling old feelings, less contact is more.
It’s similar to the idea of playing hard to get… If you let your wife know that you want her, she will naturally shy away from you. If you let your wife know that you’re doing just fine without her, she will naturally think about getting back together with you.
Work on Making Yourself Look & Feel Better
This is another tip along the lines of making yourself the best “you” that you can be. If you don’t actively work out, now is the time to start.
- Start getting in shape, losing weight, bulking up, whatever
- Start reading books regularly and advancing your mind
- Start keeping up with a hobby you enjoy
- Start listening to new music
- Better yet, start playing a musical instrument
- Start meditating or keeping a journal
- Make a new friend or start hanging out with your old buddies
Basically you just want to start improving your life. Whatever that means to you.
You will be happier as a result, and because of your happiness your wife will be more naturally drawn to you, too.
Be the Guy She Originally Fell in Love With
I could write a full article about this tip alone. One of the most effective ways to get your wife back is to think about the man you were when the two of you first started dating.
- What about you piqued your wife’s interest all those years ago?
- What made her deeply and intimately attracted to you?
- What about you was so magnetic to her?
Think about the man you used to be… How are you different now?
How would the “old you” handle this divorce? How would the “old you” be able to “get my ex wife back”?
By thinking from a different era’s perspective you will gain insights into what stimulates your wife and what would make her more likely to get back together with you.
You’ll learn what naturally unlocks her true love for you…This could be the turning point for your efforts to get your ex back!
Don’t be afraid to change your heart!
Never – EVER – Act Desperate, or Beg Her to Come Back
Many people make this mistake before they learn how to get your ex wife back.
I have never heard of any husband who has been able to reverse his wife’s decision to divorce through begging or desperation. The female love-system just doesn’t work that way.
Women do not respond to begging and women do not respond to desperation.
Similarly, they don’t respond to excessive acts of kindness completely out of the blue…At least not when things are rough. It raises too many red flags and makes them aware that you’re making a conscious effort to get them back.
Ideally, you want your wife to FEEL like she wants to get back together with you, without any detectable pressure from your part.
When your wife wants to get back together with you and doesn’t feel pressured to do so, it’s only a matter of time until you’ll find yourself re-married to the woman of your dreams with a fresh new start to life and love.
“I Know How to Get My Ex Wife Back, What Now?”
I hope that throughout this article I’ve been able to show you what you need to do to get your ex wife back.
You don’t need a marriage counselor and you don’t need therapy to fix a broken relationship. You just need to have dedication to yourself (being the best you can be) and a dedication to your wife (making her WANT to come back).
The best thing I can recommend you do to do both of these things is to read 10 Steps to Gain Husbandly Leadership. It’s a “pay what you want” guide to stepping up and becoming the man your wife wants.
Whatever you decide to do from here, I honestly wish you the best of luck. I know that you have what it takes to get your ex wife back; I’ll be rooting for you from the other side of the screen.
Remember, believe in yourself and everything else will come naturally. I hope you’ve learned how to win your ex wife back throughout this short guide.
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Much Manly Love,
With much manly love,
I'm Stephen, the guy behind Husband Help Haven. I'm not a marriage counselor or a lawyer, I'm just a guy on the Internet who has talked to a loooooot of men going through separation... Over 2,000 in the past 5 years. My goal is to give men the tools they need to save their marriage from separation. Read more here