Affair Severity Quiz

Not every affair is the same. This short quiz helps you understand the severity of what you're facing — and what kind of support will actually help. Takes about 3 minutes. No email required.

Question 1 Is your wife's affair still ongoing?

Yes. No. I don't know.

Question 2 How far has the affair progressed?

They have not met in person. They have met, but nothing physical has happened. They have had some physical contact, but have not slept together. They have slept together. I don't know.

Question 3 What has been the duration of her affair?

Question 4 Who did your wife have an affair with?

A random person (e.g. someone she met online or through an app) Someone from her past, or someone from her "outer circle" (e.g. friend of a friend) Someone she already had some form of relationship with, but was not in her daily life. (e.g. long lost ex-boyfriend) Someone who she already had a close relationship with and/or saw daily, such as a coworker or close friend. I'm not sure, or none of these answers fit.

Question 5 How often is your wife still in communication with the affair partner?

Question 6 As far as you know, is this your wife’s first affair?

Yes No

Question 7 Did your wife confess to the affair on her own, or was she caught?

She confessed on her own I was suspicious (or she was about to get caught), and then she confessed She got caught and confessed She got caught and still denied it I have not confronted her about her affair

Question 8 Is your wife willing to seek professional help, either by herself or as a couple?

Yes No

Question 9 How easily was your wife able to end the affair once it was discovered?

She ended it immediately, without hesitation She ended it with some difficulty, but still on the first attempt She struggled to end it and needed multiple attempts. She has not yet ended the affair, but claims she will. She has not yet ended the affair, and does not plan to. I don't know.

Question 11 How strongly do you agree? "My wife has taken responsibility for her affair."

Question 12 How strongly do you agree? "My wife has apologized for the affair."

Question 13 How strongly do you agree? "My wife cares about earning back my trust."

Affair Severity Quiz

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