#13 – Doing The Hard, But Good Thing

Episode Details

Today’s episode is a little different. Instead of direct separation-related strategy, we’re going to talk about two important reasons to do the hard, but good thing in your marriage.

Most HHH readers / listeners can identify with doing the hard, but good thing. After all, being the only one to fight for your marriage is exactly that.

When you do the right thing, the good thing, when the outcome isn’t guaranteed, when even recognition for trying isn’t guaranteed… Is it worth it? In this episode, I give two reasons why I say yes.

Stephen Waldo

Hi! My name is Stephen. I’m the guy behind Husband Help Haven. My mission here is to help as many men as possible become the best husbands they can be, and save as many marriages as possible along the way. Even though I’m not a marriage counselor, I want to encourage men everywhere to become better husbands, fathers and leaders. Full author bio

5 comments

  • Andrew Steffanic
    4 years ago

    Just got around to listening to this. Wow!! Been dealing with our situation for a few months and this week was designated as a no contact week. Going to get together tomorrow and have been so torn which way to go. Feeling like it’s time to cut bait but not wanting to. This was exactly what I needed right now. She knew she married “Dudley Do-Right”. She just didn’t realize how much I’d fight to do right by her. Thank you.

  • Jeff Kwiatkowski
    4 years ago

    Just listened to this for the 3rd time. It’s just what I needed to hear. Thanks for the wisdom that leads to strength and resolve to do what’s right and become the best version of myself despite the outcome in f my marriage.

  • Roger
    4 years ago

    Good morning Sir, my wife left me this past Saturday and I can’t stop hurting or breaking down and loosing it. I knew we were not in the best place our marriage could gave been but I NEVER thought she would leave us. She’s broken everything we’ve ever been together. Pieces of my broken heart are lying all over the floor and every piece is still crying out how much I love her and want her to return home. But she’s not.
    My wife took care of me for 15 years. In ‘05 when we married we both made a conscious decision to switch roles so to speak in that she’d be the bread winner (she was already making more than me) and I’d stay home to cook and clean. Neither of us I don’t think at that time knew just how much a mistake that was. But since I’ve not been in the work force or doing much anything for 15 years I honestly am so list right now. I don’t know exactly what to do now.
    I get $700 a month in SS/disability our house is paid for and she says it’s my house too and I’ve no where to go (no family or friends, so no one at all to talk to) so she is allowing me to stay here for 6 months to a year to put my self back together at least that’s what she says now. Don’t know what I’ll do when she changes her mind on that.
    In the mean time I’m pinching every penny trying to learn to budget again.
    I’m lost! I don’t know what to do next.
    Thanx for listening

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      Stephen
      4 years ago

      Get yourself on your feet, get your hustle back, find a way to provide for yourself or a productive way to spend your time. By doing this, not only will you feel progressively better, you will also show your wife strength and perhaps even rekindle attraction. But that’s not the real goal – the real goal is to get your grit back. For your sake, not hers.

  • Armando Alaniz
    4 years ago

    Thanks you so much for this episode it really makes me feel good and keep fighting for my wife trust back. Thanks you once again