How Do I Convince My Wife Not to Leave?

Convince My Wife Not to Leave“How do I convince my wife not to leave me? It seems like everything I do pushes her further away… Please help me change her mind!”

Is your marriage hanging on by a thread?

So far, you’ve always managed to get your wife back.

So far.

But every new problem brings you closer and closer to the breaking point. Your marriage is fraying and separation may finally be on the horizon.

If your wife has threatened to leave you, or worse, to file for divorce, then this article is for you.

What to Do If Your Wife is Threatening to Leave You

First, understand that generic marriage advice like open communication probably won’t change anything.

Get this into your head, ASAP:

The only way that your wife will stay with you is if you make her WANT to stay.

Sound obvious? It’s supposed to. Just keep reading.

Throughout this article, you’re going to learn how women work and what’ll really change their mind (and heart) about men.

If your wife is on the verge of leaving you, the problem won’t be solved with desperation, brute force, or persistence. Your wife is her own person, and you must respect that. And yet…

Deep down in your heart, you know there’s still a flicker burning somewhere between you and your wife. Turning that flicker into an inferno is your goal.

How to Find the Root Cause of the Problem

Before you bust out the flowers and mariachis, take a few steps back and use that grey matter bobbing around between your ears. Read this carefully:

You need to distinguish between what caused the separation in your marriage, and what resulted from it. In other words, the problems you have now may not be the real root cause of why you’re wife wants out.

Start by answering these questions:

  1. How long have you noticed a distance growing between you and your wife?
  2. Have your passions, goals or priorities drifted apart? If so, in what way and why?
  3. Off the top of your head, could you tell me what she wants out of life? Where does she want to be in 10 years?
  4. Answer this honestly: Have you neglected her in any way? Could you see how she might feel like you did?
  5. Important! What’s the difference between the you of today and the you of your wedding day?

For many men, your best chance at convincing your wife not to leave is to re-discover the foundations of your marriage. Remember what attracted you and your wife to each other and remind her of it now that she’s forgotten.

Identify the Man Your Wife Wants

Right now, it’s vital that you present yourself in a way your wife finds attractive. I can’t emphasize this enough because I truly believe it’s the secret to getting your wife back.

So, how should you be interacting with your wife right now?

Intelligently, calmly and openly.

When you talk to her, don’t let your emotions control your tongue; think before you speak. Stay disciplined and strong, but not in a way makes you seem unapproachable or apathetic.

Remember that the secret to great communication is the ability to actively listen, and to say what you mean. Consider each and every word out of her mouth, absorb it and respond to it.

Above all, remember your end goal:

Change how she FEELS about you, not how she THINKS about you.

If you stay focused on the attraction between you and your wife, then staying together will be automatic.

As I said, communication will never save your marriage on its own, but it can certainly help you find out what will. Look for opportunities to remind her what you had in the past, then show her what you can have in the future.

The Long Walk to Freedom

marriage rising from the ashesGet excited!

What’s waiting for you at the end of this journey is the most liberating treasure a man can possess.

No matter what happens, learning more about women and what makes them tick will give you a better chance of finishing this journey successfully.

Here’s one last piece of advice:

Consider this a fresh start for your marriage. It’s a clean slate, and it’s completely yours. Just like the ancient phoenix resurrects as a tiny chick, your marriage may be old, but your future is new.

Your relationship with your wife will never be the same as it used to be, and it never should be. You can’t turn back time. All relationships must grow and mature as two people tread the long path of life and love.

Don’t get so caught up in finding the past that you can’t enjoy the present; identify what parts of your early relationship were enjoyable and re-introduce those elements into your life. At the same time, learn new ways to love your wife.

Fight for it!

With much manly love,
– Jacob

Jacob
 

Hi! My name is Jacob. I'm a freelance writer by day, blogger and marriage thought-sharer at Husband Help Haven by night. Even though I'm not a marriage counselor, I want to encourage men everywhere to become better husbands, fathers and leaders. Click here to read more about me.